Before you ask, yes I’m employed. I actually have two jobs (yay!) But it wasn’t all smiles and congrats.
I was unemployed as of May 31, 2017 and I’m proud to say that as of last week I found a job. Then, as of July 27, 2017 I got hired onto a second job. As much as I wanted to jump for joy and wail out happy cries, in the back of my mind I knew that I literally had to start all over. Is it what I really want to retire in? maybe not. Will it build up my experience for the time being? absolutely.
As I grow older I care less of what others think of me. I’m not going in the business of exploiting my whole life online, but I’m not afraid to tell others that I’m not perfect. My bank account is grasping for air, my self-esteem has taken a couple of hard hits, and inspiration is wearing thin. I ask myself often, ‘How can you inspire others if you’re losing hope yourself?”.
It’s hard, it really is. But have no fear, it wasn’t all losses. I wrote more, I meditated way more than I did a couple of months ago, and I took some time to just stop and smell the roses. Sure, it may seem like a ‘waste of time’, but money doesn’t buy happiness, a healthy mind attracts it. As much as I want to write about my latest fashions and life hacks (which, by the way, is coming. soon.) I wanted to really just unload my mind. Hopefully someone who’s in the same situation or just need a life change can take something from these 4 hardcore lessons of unemployment:
1. You Will Get Rejected:
Guys, when I say Indeed and Glassdoor became my best friends? BELIVE THAT ISH. Indeed even sent me a gift for applying so much. I searched from ‘Communications’ to ‘Social Media Specialist’ to ‘Dog Walker’. For some, finding a job is probably the easiest thing in life. You could easily adjust interviews to the climate of the job, charm HR into a job, or finesse your way to the top position. For others, it’s a literal hell. Your untold anxiety of going into interviews, storing the feeling of intimidation up, and rehearsing your ‘best lines’ in your head. You will get some interviews and you won’t; but always stay prepared. Keep working on your craft and that’ll really be impressive when your first day comes.
2. Never Stop Working:
When I first started my unemployment journey I was LAZY. I woke up after 1pm, watched TV all day, and probably wore the same outfit. Of course I was running my blog and channel, but I figure it would be as easy as it was while I was working. WRONG! It was as if, my brain shut down! I had to decide for myself if I was just gonna become a statistic, or become an icon. My field is Communications and Journalism. I improved my photography skills, took a few video editing courses (YOUTUBE) and tried to learn something new everyday. You never know when your door will open so it’s best to be prepared when it is.
3. Your Supporters Will Make Themselves Known:
I didn’t tell many people about my unemployment. I barely wanted to tell my family because of embarrassment. Giving people the benefit of talking down on me was my biggest fear. But among naysayers are those who genuinely care about you and not see you for your current circumstance. Whether it be calling, sending you job searches, made me laugh or just simply giving words of encouragement (even if it’s harsh). Those are the one’s to keep around. If you’re one of the one’s helping me and reading this, thank you. You have no idea how much it’s helped, gave me hope and light when I didn’t see it for myself.
4. SAVE YA COINS:
EYE’MMM going to admit for myself, I didn’t save while working. I’m pretty sure I’d be getting a lot of side eyes and ‘wyd, sis?!’ thoughts by now. I got stuck in a “Oh I’m going to stay at this job for a while so I have time to save” mindset and ran with it. If it wasn’t for my last two paychecks from my previous employer, I would’ve been high and dry. SAVE YA COINS. I had to turn down a lot of brunches, movie dates, and lituations because of my need to save what I had. LUCKILY I get paid this week to help with the bills. Don’t be dumb and go into a retail therapy session and lose all of your finances (no, I didn’t do this thank God!). Pay your bills, save your money, find something greater.
I start work today at 5, and I am closer to starting orientation for my next job. I’d like to thank God, my family and my friends (The Entourage and My Girls!). They’ve stuck with me through my toughest times and my easier times. I’m forever grateful. I’ll still continue blogging and creating content on my channel, but even greater.
To infinity and beyond.